Caring About Others ... The Message of Christmas
Thursday, December 26, 2013
Posted by: Dr. Alan Zimmerman
Dr. Zimmerman's TUESDAY TIP:
the Grinch thought of something he hadn't before! What if Christmas, he
thought, doesn't come from a store. What if Christmas...perhaps...means a
little bit more?"
Seuss, from the book "How the Grinch Stole Christmas"
Alan Zimmerman's Personal Commentary:
This being the Christmas season, you've probably heard or read enough
advertisements to last you a lifetime. And unfortunately, the ads don't
ever address the deeper meaning of the holiday.
To send my greetings for a Merry Christmas, I want to share this story with you
... "The Boy in the Seat." The authorship has been attributed
to many people. I hope it reminds you of the caring that Christmas is all
Right before the jet way door closed, I scrambled aboard the plane going from
LA to Chicago, lugging my laptop and overstuffed briefcase. It was the first
leg of an important business trip a few weeks before Christmas, and I was
running late. I had a ton of work to catch up on. Half wishing, half praying I
muttered, "Please God, do me a favor; let there be an empty seat next to
mine. I don't need any distractions."
I was on the aisle in a two-seat row. Across sat a businesswoman with her nose
buried in a newspaper. No problem. But in the seat beside mine, next to the
window, was a young boy wearing a big red tag around his neck: Minor Traveling
The kid sat perfectly still, hands in his lap, eyes straight ahead. He'd
probably been told never to talk to strangers. Good, I thought.
Then the flight attendant came by. "Michael, I have to sit down because
we're about to take off," she said to the little boy. "This nice man
will answer any of your questions, okay?"
Did I have a choice? I offered my hand, and Michael shook it twice, straight up
"Hi, I'm Jerry," I said. "You must be about seven years
"I'll bet you don't have any kids," he responded.
"Why do you think that? Sure I do." I took out my wallet to show him
"Because I'm six."
"I was way off, huh?"
The captain's voice came over the speakers, "Flight attendants, prepare
Michael pulled his seat belt tighter and gripped the armrests as the jet
I leaned over, "Right about now, I usually say a prayer. I ask God to keep
the plane safe and to send angels to protect us."
"Amen," he said, then added, "but I'm not afraid of dying. I'm
not afraid because my mama's already in Heaven."
"I'm sorry." I said.
"Why are you sorry?" he asked, peering out the window as the plane
"I'm sorry you don't have your mama here."
My briefcase jostled at my feet, reminding me of all the work I needed to do.
"I don't have a dad," Michael sadly responded.
Only six years old and he didn't have a dad, and his Mom had died, and here he
was flying halfway across the country all by himself. The least I could do was
make sure he had a good flight. With my foot I pushed my briefcase under my
seat. I couldn't stop looking at the crumpled grocery bag on the floor by his
seat. He'd told me that everything he owned was in that bag. Poor kid.
While Michael was getting a tour of the cockpit the flight attendant told me
his grandmother would pick him up in Chicago. In the seat pocket a large manila
envelope held all the paperwork regarding his custody. He came back explaining,
"I got wings! I got cards! I got more peanuts. I saw the pilot and he said
I could come back anytime!"
For a while he stared at the manila envelope.
"What are you thinking?" I asked Michael.
He didn't answer. He buried his face in his hands and started sobbing.
"What's the matter buddy?" I asked.
All I got were muffled words. "I don't know my grandma. Mama didn't want
her to come visit and see her when she was sick. What if Grandma doesn't want
me? Where will I go?"
"Michael, do you remember the Christmas story? Mary and Joseph and the
baby Jesus? Remember how they came to Bethlehem just before Jesus was born? It
was late and cold and they didn't have anywhere to stay, no family, no hotels,
not even hospitals where babies could be born. Well, God was watching out for
them. He found them a place to stay; a stable with animals."
"Wait, wait," Michael tugged on my sleeve. "I know Jesus. I
remember now." Then he closed his eyes, lifted his head and began to sing.
His voice rang out with a strength that rocked his tiny frame. "Jeeesus
looooves me--thiiiiiis I knowwwwwww. For the Biiiiiible tells meeeeee
Passengers turned or stood up to see the little boy who made the large sound.
Michael didn't notice his audience. With his eyes shut tight and voice lifted
high, he was in a good place.
"You've got a great voice," I told him when he was done. "I've
never heard anyone sing like that."
"Mama said God gave me good pipes just like my grandma's," he said.
"My grandma loves to sing. She sings in her church choir."
"Well, I'll bet you can sing there, too. The two of you will be running
The seat belt sign came on as we approached O'Hare. The flight attendant came
by and said we just have a few minutes now, but she told Michael it's important
that he put on his seat belt. When the plane landed, people started stirring in
their seats and then they were rushing down the aisle. Michael and I stayed
"Are you gonna go with me?" he asked.
"I wouldn't miss it for the world buddy!" I assured him.
Clutching his bag and the manila envelope in one hand, he grabbed my hand with
the other. The two of us followed the flight attendant down the jet way. All
the noises of the airport seemed to fill the corridor.
Michael stopped, flipping his hand from mine, he dropped to his knees. His
mouth quivered. His eyes brimmed with tears.
"What's wrong Michael? I'll carry you if you want."
He opened his mouth and moved his lips, but it was as if his words were stuck
in his throat. When I knelt next to him, he grabbed my neck. I felt his warm,
wet face as he whispered in my ear, "I want my mama!"
I tried to stand, but Michael squeezed my neck even harder. Then I heard a
rattle of footsteps on the corridor's metal floor.
"Is that you, baby?"
I couldn't see the woman behind me, but I heard the warmth in her voice.
"Oh baby," she cried. "Come here. Grandma loves you so much. I
need a hug, baby. Let go of that nice man." She knelt beside Michael and
Michael's grandma stroked his arm. I smelled a hint of orange blossoms.
"You've got folks waiting for you out there, Michael. Do you know that
you've got aunts, and uncles and cousins?"
She patted his skinny shoulders and started humming. Then she lifted her head
and sang. I wondered if the flight attendant told her what to sing, or maybe
she just knew what was right. Her strong, clear voice filled the passageway,
"Jesus loves me -- this I know..."
Michael's gasps quieted. Still holding him, I rose, nodded hello to his grandma
and watched her pick up the grocery bag. Right before we got to the doorway to
the terminal, Michael loosened his grip around my neck and reached for his
As soon as she walked across the threshold with him, cheers erupted. From the
size of the crowed, I figured family, friends, pastors, elders, deacons, choir
members and most of the neighbors had come to meet Michael. A tall man tugged
on Michael's ear and pulled off the red sign around his neck. It no longer
As I made my way to the gate for my connecting flight, I barely noticed the
weight of my overstuffed briefcase and laptop. I started to wonder who would be
in the seat next to mine this time...And I smiled.
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