57 Secrets of Happiness
Tuesday, September 03, 2013
Posted by: Dr. Alan Zimmerman
Dr. Zimmerman's TUESDAY TIP:
"The Constitution only gives people the right to pursue
happiness. You have to catch it yourself."
Dr. Alan Zimmerman's Personal Commentary:
When I survey people and ask them what they want, most people tell
me they "just want to be happy" or they "want to be
successful." Somehow they think they have to choose between one or
the other. But that's not true. Harvard professor Shawn Achor has spent
years researching the questions, sharing his conclusions in his "Harvard
Business Review" article entitled "Happiness Leads To Profits."
Achor goes on to say that a decade of research in the business
world proves that happiness raises nearly every business and educational
outcome: raising sales by 37%, productivity by 31%, and accuracy on tasks by
19%, as well as a myriad of health and quality-of-life improvements. In
other words you can be happy AND successful. Indeed you should be.
As Achor emphatically concludes his research, our single greatest
advantage in the modern economy is a happy and engaged workforce.
Last week I gave 57 "secrets of success," partly
inspired by Speaker Hall of Famer Michael Aun. Dipping into his wisdom
once again, along with some of my own, let me share ...
THE SECRETS OF
- Character isn't something you
were born with and stuck with ... like your finger prints. It’s
something you must take responsibility for forming ... and the same goes
- Destiny isn't a matter of chance;
it's a matter of choice.
- Life is full of good sound
reasons and reasons that sound good. Choose wisely.
- Nobody cares if you can't dance
well. Just get up and dance.
- Happiness is found in doing.
Not merely in possessing.
- Never look for bargains in
parachutes or brain surgeons. Life’s costs are like air
conditioning in your car. They aren't tax-deductible but it’s nice
to ride in comfort.
- Learn to save money. People
who spare now won't despair later.
- Being broke is a temporary
condition. Being poor is a state of mind. When you live right,
things tend to go right.
- Being sad and wealthy beats being
sad and poor all day long.
- Organize or agonize.
- Problems are just unresolved
- Live within your budget.
Better yet, live beneath your means.
- Happy people are focused more on
you-you-you than me-me-me.
- Don't sell out your integrity
because it's almost impossible to buy back.
- Trust is a must or the
relationship will bust.
- Be willing to ask others for
help. It will divide your problem and double your joy.
- Forgive. Forgiveness is not
saying what the other person did was right. It's not about letting them
off the hook but letting yourself off the hook.
- Make promises sparingly and keep
- Be who you are and stand by your
beliefs. Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't
- Make the other person feel
important. Compliment often. Don't make someone feel smaller
than he is; he will make up for it by behaving like a "big
- Don't preach. Most people
already know what's right and wrong. Besides that, preaching typically requires
years of theological training that most likely you do not have.
- Movement toward any goal is
better than analysis paralysis. Remember, done is better than
- It’s not about perfection but
- The key to happiness is having
dreams. The key to success is making your dreams come true.
- How you handle yourself on the
bad days will determine your success on the good days. Remember the
baseball hitter who leads the majors with a .400 average; he's still
failing six out of ten times that he goes to the plate.
- Happiness is your responsibility,
not others. Don't waste your life in search of ultimate
satisfaction. Find pleasure each moment you live and satisfaction
with each breath you take. Decide to be happy. One day it will
be your last breath.
- Fall in love with what you're
doing in life or stop doing it. Remember, if the horse is dead, get
- Tough problems never last; tough
- To have a sense of control, know
where you ’re going and why you ’re going there.
- Out of every negative comes at
least one positive.
- If you don't prepare for change
you'll never be prepared for the future.
- Many of life’s events are beyond
your control, but how you react to them is within your control.
- When things go wrong, look in the
mirror and you'll generally find the responsible party.
- Worrying is stewing, not doing.
Worry is the price you pay for something that has less than one
chance in ten of happening.
- Wear a smile. It increases
your face value and one size fits all.
- FEAR stands for False Evidence
- Don't cry because it’s over;
smile because it happened.
- The world is not fair.
- Things will not always go your
way. Deal with it.
- Everyone will not agree with you,
get along with you, or treat you the way you would like. So what?
- Cry with someone. It's more
healing than crying alone.
- Laugh often, long and loud.
Laugh until you gasp for breath.
- Your attitude accounts for about
80% of your happiness and success. And that’s one thing you control
- Upon close examination, many
things that might annoy you are truly petty. So keep on asking yourself,
In the big picture, does this thing really matter that much?
- Sweating the small stuff makes
you a small person. Be quick to let things go.
- A truly happy person is one who
can enjoy the scenery on a detour.
- The more you praise and celebrate
your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.
- Get outside and look around every
day. Miracles are happening everywhere.
- Always choose life.
- Over prepare, then go with the
- Believe in miracles.
- Remind yourself the best is yet
- Write down four things you ’re
thankful for every day. It will make you a happier person.
- Pray big, think big, act big,
dream big, work big, give big, forgive big, love big, live big and laugh
- However good or bad a situation
is, it will change.
- Everything can change in the
blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.
- Whatever doesn't kill you really
does make you stronger ... and most times happier.
Click here to download and print this list for free...
Scientifically, happiness is a choice. It is a choice about where
your brain will devote its finite resources as you process the world. If you
and your brain scan for the negative first, your brain literally has no
resources left over to see the positive things for which you could and should
be . Your brain has no energy left over to see the meaning embedded in
your work. But if you scan the world for the positive, you start to reap an
amazing happiness advantage.
Given the unprecedented level of unhappiness at companies and the
direct link between happiness and business outcomes, Researcher Shawn Achorthe
says the question is NOT whether happiness should matter to companies. Given
the research, it clearly should. The first question is: What can I do in my own
life to reap the advantage of happiness?" Re-read the list above ...
on a daily basis. And come join me for my "Journey to the
Extraordinary" experience coming to Chicago on November 14-15, 2013.
It will put you on the right path at work and at home for years to come.
Decide on how you're going to get the list ... "The Secrets
of Happiness" ... into your consciousness on a daily basis.
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About the author:
As a best-selling author and Hall of Fame professional
speaker, Dr. Alan Zimmerman is focused on "transforming the people side of
business.” His keynotes and seminars are noted for high content, high energy,
and high involvement that transform people's lives and the companies where they
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