Attitude that Differentiates the Winners and Losers
Tuesday, June 18, 2013
Posted by: Dr. Alan Zimmerman
Zimmerman's TUESDAY TIP:
can complain because rose bushes have thorns or rejoice because thorn bushes
Zimmerman's PERSONAL COMMENTARY:
You've probably heard enough about a positive attitude to fill a
lifetime or two. Perhaps that's why humorist Brian Beatty said, "I
prefer to think that the chip on my shoulder gives the monkey on my back
something to play with."
Of course, the more critical question is not how much have you
heard about a positive attitude but how well have you mastered it. One
baby mosquito mastered it quite well. After coming back from his first
flight, his Dad asked, "How was it?" The baby replied,
"Dad, it was wonderful. Everyone was clapping for me."
Personally, I believe that a positive attitude is one of most
important and powerful forces in the world ... a force that you definitely want
working for you. To pump up your attitude, do the following:
Expect good things to happen.
William James, the father of American psychology stated that
almost everything you expect to happen in life happens. If you expect a
dull and dreary life, you'll probably get it. But if you enthusiastically
expect good things to happen, they probably will.
To prove this point, Dr. Norman Vincent Peale used to gather his
parishioners at Marble Collegiate Church in New York City on New Year's Eve and
them write down their personal expectations for the upcoming year. The
parishioners would seal their expectations in an envelope, give them to Peale,
and re-assemble one year later to check out the results. Almost always,
people's expectations came true ... and with amazing accuracy ... everything
from losing a marriage partner, to being promoted, to dying.
I encourage you to expect good things to happen today, tomorrow,
next week, next month, next year, and the next several years. Write them
down. Not only will you have a better attitude now and greater success
now, you'll also have more enthusiasm as you anticipate the coming of those
Unveil the positive in every situation.
No matter what the situation, there is always a positive.
Some see it and some don't. In fact, this is the distinguishing
characteristic of an enthusiastic, optimistic individual. The optimist
"sees" the opportunity in every difficulty whereas the pessimist
"sees" the difficulty in every opportunity.
Where do you fit in? Do you see a solution for every problem
or a problem in every solution? Do you see the green near every sand trap
or the sand trap around every green? Do you say "It may be difficult
but it's possible." or "It may be possible but it's too
To become more positive, you need to purposely, consciously unveil
the positive in every situation. Just like the old-time actress Molly
Picon. When Molly heard some performers complaining about their
accommodations on tour, she said, "I never complain about such things.
My grandmother raised eleven children in four rooms." Someone
asked, "How did she manage?" "Easy," Picon replied.
"She took in boarders."
Wayne Williams, the President and CEO of Telect, Inc., is one of
those people that can see the positive in every situation. He sent me his
story ... which I found fascinating ... and I think you will too. He
"Dear Alan, Before I left on my vacation, my Director of
Human Resources asked me to give him my latest top ten books so he could share
them at our upcoming leadership conference. I was taken back because I
realized how far I had fallen behind in the life application books."
"As my wife and I were flying out of Monterey to Phoenix, a
number of circumstances caused us to miss our flight. But I was
determined to get out of there and went to the Delta airline counter, seeing
they were checking in to Salt Lake. I knew that if we didn't get out of
the tiny Monterey airport, we would have to stay another night. I paid
the $650.00 for our new tickets and we were off. A long layover in Salt
Lake would prove the delay and $650.00 would be worth the missed flight.
As I perused the book section in the airport in Salt Lake, I was
intrigued by this book 'PIVOT: How One Turn In Attitude Can Lead To
Success." I opened it up, looked at it, and wondered if it would be
a good book. After all, Who is this Dr. Alan R. Zimmerman, and why
haven't I heard of him in all of my book reads?"
"I started reading. I was impressed. Zimmerman's
thoughts seemed to mirror mine, yet articulated in a way I couldn't write.
I spent the next couple of hours reading your book as we waited at the
airport ... my wife looking over my shoulders with a skeptical eye and curious
as to why I was so engrained in this book ... commenting she hadn't seen me so
caught up in a book like this for some time."
"Well, I just finished your book about 15 minutes ago.
I thought "How can I write what I learned?" Well, what
better way than to send a note to the author himself."
"Your book is awesome ... contagious, refreshing, and
exhilarating! I will be taking your book and buying many copies to send
to family, friends, and work associates ... but most importantly will use this
as an application and teaching tool in our mentoring and coaching program.
Thank you for putting into words what I have tried to practice ... but
more importantly ... thank you for 'waking me back up' from listening to the
negativity and the monotony of the 'losers'. You will be added to my list
of writers, speakers, and encouragers and I am hopeful that we will get a
chance to meet and talk someday."
"This was the best $670.00 I have spent on a book! Take
Care and God Bless you and your family."
Wayne Williams could have griped about missing his flight.
He could have griped about the extra $650 it cost him. All of which
would have made his day even worse. Instead he chose to see the positive
in his situation. It's a skill that is mastered by all great positive
here if you would like to get a copy of my book for
yourself or possibly a group of people, if you would like to get "PIVOT:
How One Turn In Attitude Can Lead To Success".
It is absolutely critical that you stop using negative
terminology, for how you speak has a profound effect upon your life. Your
spoken words become rooted in your conscious mind, but with repetition, they
are driven deeply into your subconscious mind. It is here that your words
become the guiding force, if not the controlling force, in your life. So
eliminate negative words and statements from your vocabulary.
Of course it won't be easy. We seem to be surrounded by
negative thinkers and negative talkers. One corporate survey discovered
the dismal fact that in the average workplace today, nine negative words are
spoken for every positive word. No wonder so many workers are less than
So start talking more positively. Instead of talking about
that "difficult and disagreeable customer," talk about the
"opportunity to practice your interpersonal skills." If you do,
your mind will become more positive, and you will think, feel, and act more
positively. You will become more enthusiastic.
A positive attitude may not prevent all your problems or solve all
your problems. But this I know ... a positive attitude will get you
through your problems a great deal faster with a lot less hassle. Use
these three tips to up your attitude.
Take the 24-hour challenge.
Go one entire day without uttering one negative comment.
About the author:
As a best-selling author and Hall of Fame professional speaker,
Dr. Alan Zimmerman is focused on "transforming the people side of
business.” His keynotes and seminars are noted for high content, high energy,
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